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Success Doesn’t Create Happiness – Happiness Creates Success!

  • Sterling Mire
  • February 11, 2019

30 Days to Total Transformation

You can not create happiness out of success, but you can create success out of happiness.

I want to ask you a simple question but I’d like you to think about it before answering. Are you happy? Really think about it and let me just clarify the question:  I don’t mean have you experienced happiness or do you experience happiness from time to time. Such as in those fleeting moments in life where we feel happy such as: when we land our dream job, fall in love, being with our family, buying a new car, on vacation, receiving validation from someone or something that means a lot to us.

Most people rely on outside circumstances to dictate when they get to experience moments of happiness For a moment, let’s reflect on those times where circumstances allow us to experience fleeting happiness. How much time would that represent collectively? I am talking about taking all those moments that were spent happy. We may think that during our vacation we were completely happy the whole time, but what about the stress of getting to the airport on time? Worrying about whether we packed the right things? How about the mix up at the hotel? Or when we finally arrived at the beach and it rained? Those moments are not happy moments spent, so those times would not be included in when we calculate the total amount of time experiencing happiness. So, when you think about it like that, how much time would be represented? Would it represent hours? A few days? Maybe a week or month? Ok, let’s just say for the sake of argument, 6 months? That is 4,368 hours.

Remember, a month is 720 hours you get to be happy in all of your life yet there is 692,499.78 hours in the average life span of 79 years. Would that be a good estimate?

What if I told you that you could experience happiness regardless of what circumstances you find yourself facing. No matter what life throws you, you could still experience and retain happiness, peace and fulfillment in the face of all things no matter how unfortunate. Picture that for a moment. Calculate how much time that is: to put it simply the answer is: all the time.

What would you experience of life be then? What would you be capable of then? Just take a moment and think about it. Pretty awesome, huh?

Now, let me take a moment to talk about success, because I can hear some of you thinking: “Boy, if I just had more success in my life, I’d be HAPPY!” Really?? Hmmm, let’s look at some of those public figures in society that had success: Elvis Presley: happy? No. In fact, many people said he really struggled to find happiness after his mother died.

I just read a book about Errol Flynn the famous movie star of the 30s, 40s, 50s? He had it all: great looks, an exciting creative career as an actor, money, a house on Mulholland Hills, women. Happy? No. I wouldn’t say someone is happy when at the peak of their success they were contemplating suicide with a bottle of Vodka in one hand and a revolver in the other.

Kurt Cobain, Robin Williams, Janice Joplin, Marilyn Monroe, Howard Hughes, Casey Johnson (heiress to Johnson & Johnson) Amy Winehouse, Michael Jackson, Jesse Livermore (the “wonder boy” of Wall Street) and the list is almost inexhaustible, all unhappy. All of them “had it all”.  Or did they? Really you could say they actually had nothing because they had not found happiness in their lives. Success is over-rated. Happiness is under-rated, in our country. With happiness you can create success. You can not create happiness out of success!

If we are happy in life our life changes dramatically. In fact, EVERYTHING changes in all the ways we want it to be. We experience: peace, happiness, success, serendipity (luck), synchronicity, fulfillment (perfect timing and flow in our lives and more. So, not only do people reach their destinations but the journey is awe-inspiring and fulfilling!

When I work with my clients, the first thing I do is get them to powerfully tap into their own happiness and fulfillment from within. The attainment of things and the achievements they are also interested in follow naturally and quite effortlessly.

You see, what I offer as a manifestation specialist goes way over and beyond goal setting and positive thinking. I am speaking about tapping into your personal power to materialize anything you want to experience in your life without having to take into consideration perceived limitations such as resources like money,  education or opportunities.  I’ll give you a great example: I had a client a few years ago who wanted to open her own real estate business but didn’t have any money whatsoever to do so. After working for real estate companies for many years, she was certain she no longer wanted to work for someone else. She wanted to own and lead her own business. Through working with the AOM system, within 2 months she materialized her business for free. She was literally gifted a 35 year old established business without effort – it just fell into her lap!

Here’s another one. I was working with a couple who wanted to build their dream home. They had saved the money to build the home but they didn’t have the money for the breath-taking piece of land they had set their heart on. Within a month and a half a friend of theirs bought 20 acres of the very land they wanted to build their house on. When they told their friend how they loved the same land as much as she did, the friend gave them 2.5 acres to build their home on free of charge! Their friend said it was worth giving them the land knowing who their neighbor would be.

I had another client come to me broken down by the recent break-up with his fiancé of 3 years. He was literally in tears and inconsolable. Within 2 weeks of working together, the aspiring musician received an offer to join the writing team for a top #1 female singer. I recall him describing how the offer came suddenly right out of the blue! I completely understood how this miracle came about through his working the AOM system. When we reviewed his 30 days I had to remind him that he also healed his broken heart. He had totally forgotten about that his life was so unrecognizable!

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Martin Luther King Jr.: Saint or a Rebel?

  • Sterling Mire
  • January 21, 2019

King was imprisoned nearly 30 times.
Did you know, King was imprisoned almost 30 times? The civil rights leader went to jail 29 times. He was arrested for acts of civil disobedience and for menial offences, such as when he was jailed in Montgomery, Alabama, in 1956 for driving 30 miles per hour in a 25-mile-per-hour zone.

King nearly died before his fatal attack.
On September 20, 1958, King was in Harlem signing copies of his new book, “Stride Toward Freedom,” in Blumstein’s department store. Izola Ware Curry approached him to ask if he was indeed Martin Luther King Jr. When King replied, yes, Curry stated she has been looking for him for five years and with that, stabbed him in the chest with a seven-inch letter opener. The tip of the blade was lodged next to his aorta, and King endured several hours of intensive emergency surgery. Surgeons later informed King that one jolt, like a sneeze, sneeze could have punctured his aorta and instantly killed him. From his hospital bed where he recouperated for several weeks, King sent out a statement re-affirming his nonviolent beliefs and declared that he felt no negative feelings toward his mentally deranged attacker.

In King’s last public speech, he sensed death was upon him.
King had come to Memphis in April 1968 to support the strike of the city’s black garbage workers, and in a speech on the night before his assassination, he told an audience at Mason Temple Church: “Like anybody, I would like to live a long life. Longevity has its place. But I’m not concerned about that now … I’ve seen the Promised Land. I may not get there with you. But I want you to know tonight, that we, as a people, will get to the Promised Land. And I’m happy tonight. I’m not worried about anything. I’m not fearing any man. Mine eyes have seen the glory of the coming of the Lord.”

King’s beloved mother was also assassinated.
On June 30, 1974, as 69-year-old Alberta Williams King played the organ at a Sunday service inside Ebenezer Baptist Church, Marcus Wayne Chenault Jr. rose from the front pew, drew two pistols and began to fire shots. One of the bullets struck and killed King, who died steps from where her son had preached nonviolence. The deranged gunman said that Christians were his enemy and that although he had received divine instructions to kill King’s father, who was in the congregation, he killed King’s mother instead because she was closer. The shooting also left a church deacon dead. Chenault received a death penalty sentence that was later changed to life imprisonment, in part due to the King family’s opposition to capital punishment.

Martin Luther King Jr. was a saint and a rebel and ultimately, a martyr. He died believing in his cause. Believing in a cause that everyman has a living right to equal rights. He stood for unconditional love, no matter your race. He stood for each individual being treated with dignity, honor and respect.

Be fearless, as King was, in pursuing your dreams – It’s what makes life worth living!
King was a hero partly because he allowed nothing to come between him and his vision and he never regretted even after possibly losing his life. His issued statement. while recovering in the hospital, confirmed that hate never was or is the answer but universal love is.

Martin Luther had an unstoppable dream – that dream is still unstoppable.

You can have a dream too and be unstoppable too.

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The Price of Freedom – 25 Ways to Let Go and Reclaim Your Power!

  • Sterling Mire
  • January 1, 2019

“If you let go a little, you will have a little peace. If you let go a lot, you will have a lot of peace.” ~Ajahn Chah

One of my favorite authors, Eckhart Tolle, believes we create and maintain problems because they give us a sense of identity. Perhaps this explains why we often hold onto our pain far beyond its ability to serve us.

We get stuck in the past. We tend to relive past mistakes over and over again in our head instead of completing them and letting them go. This causes us to experience feelings of shame, frustration and guilt and we allow those emotions to shape our actions in the present. We hold on to frustration and worry about the future, as if the act of obsessing somehow gives us power over our fears. It is actually the opposite. We hold stress in our minds and bodies, potentially creating serious health issues, and accept that state of tension as the norm.

There will never be a time when life is simple. There will always be time to practice accepting that. Every moment is a chance to let go and feel peaceful. Here are some ways to get started:

 

How To Let Go Of Upsets Within Your Life

1. Learn a new skill. Instead of dwelling on the skills you never mastered.

2. Become complete with the situation. Either accept there is nothing you can do about the circumstance and let it go or recognize that there is and do it. Maybe an apology and asking for forgiveness is due. You’d be surprised how powerful something as simple as being responsible and cleaning up life’s messes can be.

3. Cry it out. According to Dr. William Frey II, PH.D. biochemist at the Ramsey Medical Center in Minneapolis, crying away your negative feelings releases harmful chemicals that build up in your body due to stress.

4. Channel your discontent into an immediate positive action. Make some calls about new job opportunities, or walk to the community center to volunteer.

5. Use meditation or yoga to bring you into the present moment. A great exercise is the “Being Present” exercise I give to my clients. Try this while showering, driving, or doing the dishes. Simply take in all that you are perceiving without judgments, opinions, stories. Notice something, observe it fully and then move on to something else. Great stress buster and it also allows you to be related to reality powerfully and make better choices in life.

6. Make a list of your accomplishments, even the small ones, and add to it daily. You’ll have to let go of a little discontentment to make space for this self-satisfaction. Post this somewhere where you will see it often. Bathroom mirror. Front door to your bedroom or home and take it in before you leave.

7. Visualize a box in your head labeled “Expectations.” Whenever you start dwelling on how things should be or should have been, mentally shelve the thoughts in this box.

8. Engage in a physical activity. Exercise decreases stress hormones and increases endorphins, chemicals that improve your state of mind.

9. Focus all your energy on something you can control. Instead of dwelling on things you can’t, make a difference in someone else’s world. Clean up clutter in the home. Wash the car inside and out. Make fun plans just for yourself or with a friend.

10. Express your feelings through a creative outlet, like blogging or painting. Add this to your to-do list and cross it off when you’re done. This will be a visual reminder that you have actively chosen to release these feelings.

 

Let go of Anger and Bitterness

11. Feel it fully. If you stifle your feelings, they may leak out and affect everyone around you—not just the person who inspired your anger. Before you can let go of any emotion, you have to feel it fully and express it safely.

12. Give yourself a rant window. Let yourself vent for a day before confronting the person who troubled you. This may diffuse the hostility and give you time to plan a rational confrontation.

13. Remind yourself that anger hurts you more than the person who upset you. Visualize it melting away as an act of kindness to yourself.

14. If possible, express your anger to the person who offended you. Communicating how you feel is a powerful solution for moving on if done responsibly. Express yourself intelligently with calm, thoughtful and clear articulate words. Write it out first and practice. Give the other person an opportunity to apologize. Refrain from just spewing all over someone. This only causes them to be defensive as they will feel attacked and you will feel like a mess coming out of an emotional hurricane. Keep in mind that you can’t control how the other responds; you can only control how clearly and kindly you express yourself.

15. Take responsibility. Many times when you are upset, you focus on what someone else did that was wrong, which essentially gives away your power. When you focus on what you could have done better, you often feel empowered and less bitter.

16. Put yourself in the offender’s shoes. We all make mistakes, and odds are you could have easily slipped up just like your husband, father, or friend did. Compassion dissolves anger.

17. Remind yourself these are your only three options: remove yourself from the situation, change it or accept it. These acts create happiness; holding onto bitterness never does.

 

Let Go Of Past Relationships

18. Identify what the experience taught you to help develop a sense of closure.

19. Remember both the good and the bad. Even if it appears this way now, the past was not perfect. Acknowledging this may minimize your sense of loss. As Laura Oliver says, “It’s easier to let go of a human than a hero.”

20. Un-romanticize the way you view love. Of course you’ll feel devastated if you believe you lost your soul mate. If you think you can find a love that amazing or better again, it will be easier to move on.

21. Visualize an empowered single you—the person you were before meeting your last love. That person was pretty awesome, and now you have the chance to be him or her again.

22. Create a space that reflects your present reality. Take down his pictures; delete her emails from your saved folder.

23. Reward yourself for small acts of acceptance. Get a facial after you delete his number from your phone, or head out with friends after putting all her things in a box.

24. Hang this statement somewhere you can see it. “Loving myself means letting go.”

25. Replace your emotional thoughts with facts. When you think, “I’ll never feel loved again!” don’t resist that feeling. Instead, move on to another thought, like “Hey, I learned a new song for karaoke tonight.”

These 25 steps will allow you to take back and experience your personal freedom and power again putting you on the path you desire. The outcomes that follow is the stuff dreams are made of!

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Solutions for New Year’s Resolutions

  • Sterling Mire
  • December 31, 2018

NEW YEAR’S RESOLUTIONS – TOP 10 TIPS FOR KEEPING ON TRACK!

As a practicing spiritual manifestation life coach, I am often approached by clients who seek to fulfill important goals. Through my unique Art of Manifestation program, I am able to help them attain these goals when they create their wonderful New Year. Most of my clients wish to make lasting New Year’s resolutions stick. But how do they do it?

It’s an exciting time to create New Year’s resolutions, right? Maybe yours include taking time to exercise, engaging socially with friends, attending MeetUp groups, eating healthier, saving money, taking a vacation, managing stress, taking an art class or hobby, helping others or simply taking more time out for you! It can also be a confronting time when we think about our past, unfulfilled New Year’s resolutions. How do we keep these new resolutions from falling to the wayside? I’ve created an easy Top 10 Tips list for keeping your New Year’s resolutions right on track!

1. Be sure it is something you can truly commit to.

Be honest with yourself. Is it something you truly want or does it just sound good on paper? Create resolutions that which inspires you the most at this time. Don’t overwhelm yourself with too many commitments. Take on resolutions that light you up the most. Once those have come into being you can create more even before the year is up. It doesn’t have to be a New Year to keep creating a new life for yourself.

2. Keep your focus

Don’t go unconscious – Start your day with morning visualizations that will set you up for your day. Keep seeing yourself in the desired results and reaping the benefits of your New Year’s resolutions. This will keep you on track and will have you connecting with the experience of doing it and experiencing the results.

3. Keep a daily gratitude diary.

Implement your New Year’s Resolutions into your daily plans or weekly plans. Schedule it into your day and write about that which you have that you are grateful for at the end of the day. This keeps gratitude present and alive for you and will help keep you on target.

4. Tell others

We want others to see our best side. We want to share stories of success, not failure. Telling others what you are up will keep you accountable to your word. So when someone asks you how your new workout routine is going you can reply by saying “Great!”.

5. Be determined.

Do not let anything take you off track. Do not let anyone, including yourself, talk you into allowing old habits to creep back in. It’s easy to go back to what is familiar to us, but what is familiar may have comforting factors it is ultimately unfulfilling. Remember, it takes a little time for your new year’s resolutions to become what is familiar to you AND what is satisfying as well. Also, if you get off track, simply admit to it and get back on track without making yourself wrong. It really is that simple.

6. Take bite-sized action.

Commit yourself to one month, if you feel overwhelmed with the commitment you’ve made. After one month, access whether you’d like to take on another month. Repeat this action. It’s a little trick we can play on ourselves because it takes approximately 21 days for change to occur and for something to become more habitual and second nature. By the time a month is over chances are we’ve acclimated it into our life-style and by then slipping back into our old ways may prove to be harder than you think! Also, remember: Consistency is the key. If we can be consistent for a period of time the rest is easy. Plus the headway we make and the results we experience is enough to strengthen our commitment – for good.

7. Use the buddy system

Having a friend fulfilling on the same resolutions as yours is another way to stay on the path! There are lots of resolutions that could involve a buddy such as: exercising, meeting new people, eating healthy, quitting bad habits, hobbies, just to name a few. When we have someone else sharing the same goals it can keep us in check by having someone else depending on us to fulfill. We don’t want to let our friend down or set a bad example, right? Our friends rely on us to reach our goals and fulfilling on our goal is twice as sweet with someone else celebrating the same results. Even if are New Year’s resolutions don’t involve others, we can still share our goals to have that added support.

8. Visual reminders

Put images of what you desire everywhere. On the frig, in the bathroom, on your desk, on your screensaver, in your wallet, in your car. Where ever you spend time, put a visual reminder of what you want to come to fruition.

9. Reward yourself

At least once a week, do something extra special for yourself as a reward for keeping to your goals. Maybe it’s an inexpensive massage, having a sweet treat, buying yourself a piece of clothing, or something adventurous like horse-back riding, or maybe simply taking a scenic drive all on your own!

10. Acknowledge yourself.

Give yourself credit for taking on new habits and choosing to make lifestyle changes. That alone is the first step towards success.( Remind yourself you are worth it) Keep moving in the right direction and you will find yourself fulfilling on those “hard to keep” New Year’s Resolutions in no time!

New Year’s resolutions don’t have to be a daunting experience it simply takes some practice and a little effort. Applying these tips can make the difference between making your New Year’s resolutions stick or breaking them. Before your new year is up, these resolutions will seem like second nature and you will not only be reaping the benefits of your New Year’s resolutions but you will be saying “hello” to a new you and a new way of life! Even the simplest things can seem hard to change because we are creatures of habit but that doesn’t mean we can’t change and the good news about being creatures of habit is once these new changes take, it is a lot harder to change back to our old ways and old self!

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Holiday Thriving versus Surviving!

  • Sterling Mire
  • November 30, 2018

We all need a guide. The first thing is to really be ready to be related with the people that you’re there with, and out to cause something extraordinary with people. We can have all the dinners, we can have all the decorations, and gift-giving and receiving but really what’s at the heart of a great holiday, no matter how great the food was, how beautiful the decorations were, what makes or breaks a holiday is the relationships we have with people and whether we enjoy the people or not. So what we really want to focus on is how to really have extraordinary relationships with the people we’re with, whoever we’re spending the holidays with. You may ask yourself, “How do you do that when you don’t even want to go?”

I had that experience myself once at a birthday party. I was invited someplace, rather obligated to go just because of all the different circumstances, a place I really didn’t want to go. Here’s what I resolved for myself. As I was going there, I said, “Okay. You’re going to have a better time than you think you can have,” and then I rang the doorbell and walked in the door with that commitment in place, like really, “Okay,” and when I walked in the door, just having committed to have a better time that I thought I could have, and I ended up meeting new people that were instrumental to my future! It was great!

I think every time we go someplace, we have a preconceived notion of how good it’s going to be. We have a preconceived notion of how enjoyable it’s going to be. So the first thing would be to just get committed to you’re going have a better time than you think you’re going have, and then walk in the door looking for the opportunity for that. And if you walk in the door looking for the opportunity to have a better time than you think you’re going have, guess what? I think you’ll find a lot of ways to do that.

My clients often ask me what to do when someone says something to you that makes you mad but you don’t want to ruin the holiday for everyone?

“There are actually three things you could do but there’s only one of them that really works.”

One thing you could do is argue, right? You could. Somebody says something that makes you mad, and you just want to – you just can hardly stand it. You just so want to let them know that what they said was wrong. You could come back with your best, best, best answer that really proves how wrong they are, except guess what? You’ll end up in an argument because then they have to defend themselves and then you have to defend yourself, then they have to defend themselves, and we know where that one goes. So that doesn’t work. Another thing people often try is to not say anything, just try to grit your teeth and grin and bear it, but you really are holding onto it and you still let it shape you, like whatever they said really does ruin your day because that’s all you’re thinking about, all you’re stewing about, and even though you’re not responding, it’s totally shaping you. You’re succumbing to it. That doesn’t work, either, because your day’s still ruined.

There’s a third thing you can do, which is – it sounds simple but it really is profound. It’s just to let it go by. Let it go. Sometimes I imagine being a bullfighter where you just – what you don’t do with a bull, you don’t argue with it, right? Yet you don’t lay down and let it run over you. Look at matadors. They are masters at just stepping out of the way and letting things go by. I think sometimes we think we have to deal with everything that people say, but people say things they don’t even mean. People say things that they didn’t intend to be upsetting, and a lot of it, especially around the holidays – I think this is all the time, but especially around the holidays. Let some of it go by. Just let it go by, step out of the way, and then stay right there in the conversation and just committed to what you’re committed to causing in terms of your friendship and your relationship with that person.

Now, if somebody says something that’s really irritating to you and you let it go by, how do you not let that fester? You simply have to relate to it for what it is. It’s just something they said.

One of the things that always makes something worse is not what they say but what we have what they say mean. So there’s a difference between what somebody says and then what it means to us. In other words, the story we make up about what they said or the interpretation we have of what they said and it’s really important to separate those two out. There’s what they said and then there’s what we have it mean. And those are two different things.

I’ll give you an example, if somebody said, for instance, “I wouldn’t have set the table this way,” Suppose there you are, you’ve got the table set, and your mother-in-law says, “I wouldn’t have set the table this way,” Now, that’s what she said. What somebody could and probably would have that mean is, “She doesn’t respect me, she doesn’t honor that this is my home, she never thinks anything I do is good enough for her son.” Right? On and on and on. It could be any of those things. Now, really, though, the statement, “I wouldn’t have set the table this way,” is a pretty simple statement that is just a statement about what she would’ve or wouldn’t have done, and if you can keep it for what it is, just a statement, and keep separate everything you had it mean and you’ll notice that all of the upset every bit of the upset is in actually what we have it mean, not what they actually said.

How do you appreciate someone if you’re mad at them? Why should we appreciate someone if you’re mad at them? Why we choose to appreciate someone even if we’re mad at them is because where if we really look at relationships, when we’re satisfied in a relationship is when we love who we’re being.

“We put a lot of focus on how the other person is treating us, but you know what? Even if someone’s not treating us well, if we love who we’re being, we’re actually pretty satisfied. The opposite is also true, isn’t it? Which is that if somebody’s being great with us but then we’re pretty cranky with them, then even them being great with us doesn’t make a difference for us because we’re still cranky,”

So to really take on, even when you’re, especially when you’re mad at somebody, is to appreciate them and find something to appreciate about them at the very least. it’s really simple. That them being there gives you an opportunity to be somebody, to be somebody you love being, gives you an opportunity to be generous or it gives you an opportunity to be loving. Even the ones that make you the maddest, those are the ones that give you the biggest opportunity to be somebody really great.

If we really study relationships, one of the things you notice is that the whole point of other people like the opportunity of people, of being with people, is that without them there, we don’t get to be somebody, and the quality of our life comes from who we get to be with people. So it’s right there, so why appreciate somebody you’re mad at is because you’ll end up being really happy with yourself and therefore even happy with them through your own empowerment about who you are choosing to be within the circumstance.

Last week I had a client say to me, “My husband’s so controlling, how can I have a happy holiday if he tries to control everything?”

There are two things here. If you know that about your husband, if you know, from holidays from the past, one of the things that really works is to, ahead of holidays, ask him everything that he wants so that you actually know what he wants and he has some – he gets to say what’s important to him before the holidays ever get there so that he already knows you’re committed that he gets what he wants and then at the holiday itself, I kind of always have a theory called ride the horse the way the horse is going. The more you would fight it or the more you would resist, probably the more controlling he’s going to try to be because he’s going to be fighting back then. If you really just keep looking for it, there’s something that’s important to him, something. People only try to be controlling because there’s something important to them, and if you can just listen for and try to hear what’s really important to him and then make sure he gets it or make sure that he knows that you’re committed that he gets it, then guess what happens? He starts paying attention to what’s important to you and that you get that as well.

Two things, again. One is, if at all possible, before the holidays ever happen, sit down, talk about what’s going to be important to each other at the holidays and what’s going be important to your husband so that he knows that he knows in advance that you’re out to make sure he gets a really great holiday that he wants. Then when the holiday’s happening itself, just keep trying to hear, when he’s being controlling, what is important to him and how can I make sure he knows that I’m committed that he gets that, and then I promise, it really is amazing how much then the other person starts wanting to make sure you get what you want, too.

Here’s another question I’ve been asked, “My mother-in-law doesn’t make me feel welcome. I don’t want to go. How do I survive that?”

One of the things there, I think is that I wouldn’t take it personally. If the mother-in-law’s not making you feel welcome, I bet, I really would bet a lot of money, that the mother-in-law’s concerned about something you don’t even know she’s concerned about. For instance, it may have nothing to do with you. Maybe she’s concerned about how her house looks or maybe she’s concerned about how her food is or maybe she’s concerned about how she and her husband are getting along in front of you. There’s a whole number of things. Maybe your mother-in-law’s concerned about getting older. There’s a whole number of things that she could be concerned about, and when people are concerned about something, they often don’t – aren’t able to make another person feel welcome around them. One of the first things I do is to not take it personal and would, again, just have some compassion that probably that person is concerned about something and give they’re concerned about it, they’re not having an easy time being with you. The more you can just be at ease with them and make it safe for them to be with you, then the more they’ll be able to be at ease with you, and guess what? Then you’ll have the experience of being welcomed.

I think we often underestimate the power of listening. Listening to people. When you really listen to people, they get really – they’re just grateful for it. A lot of times we think what’s important is what we say to other people. I’ve found that that is very important, what we say is very important and we want to make sure that what we say really is always empowering of others. On the other side of it, there’s listening to people and really listening to somebody. I’ve always found people, I know for myself, if somebody really listens to me, I’m always grateful afterward.

Sometimes, especially if somebody’s not making you feel welcome, there’s something that they want to say or there’s something that they’ve got to say that if you could just listen to, they would be grateful that you’re there, and then, again, you’d have the experience of being really welcomed.

No matter what they’re talking about, because sometimes they talk about something that doesn’t seem important or they can be talking about the weather or sometimes they’re upset and their visibly upset. Whatever is going on right there, if they’re talking about the weather, listen to that. If they’re talking about how the dinner’s going, listen to that. If they’re talking about something they’re upset about, listen to that. When I say listen, I really do mean give them your attention so that they know, and maybe even ask them questions, but even if it’s something, they just make a comment about the weather, just acknowledge that you heard them.

People also really appreciate being acknowledged for the “good” that they are. Acknowledging people for their better attributes or way of being in life actually helps them to connect to that side of themselves in the present moment and that paves a way for them to move forward in extraordinary ways allowing you to have an extraordinary and memorable experience and holiday with them.

Happy Holidays!

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The Power of Humility

  • Sterling Mire
  • September 19, 2016

Practicing the art of humility in our lives allows us access to so many answers to our questions and to the endless gifts others have to share with us. Life is richer, more colorful and experienced in a satisfying way.

Very few people today even know what the word humility means and the value of it. Why is being humble such a powerful and extraordinary way of being? When we are being humble, we are demonstrating quiet confidence. We know we are no better or lesser than anyone else. We know we have access to our own personal power and therefore, do not have anything to prove, because we just know we are.

When we practice being humble, we open ourselves up to the world and allow ourselves to grow and learn things that serve our evolution. Our greatest leaders in the world practice humility: Martin Luther King, Gandhi, Nelson Mandela, Albert Einstein, Mother Theresa, Abraham Lincoln, Jesus Christ, Stephen Hawking, just to name a few. Being humble opens up a world of possibilities that other wise could never be. It also keeps life itself a fascinating, curious, awe-inspiring adventure. We are also given the gift of connectedness with our fellow human beings – a very fulfilling experience! Humble people know the value of everything that exists in the world. They can observe life and appreciate everything about it.

Humble people are strong, charismatic and powerful.  They have access to providing solutions towards the betterment of the outer world, and in turn, bettering their own inner world.  When we are practicing being humble, we shift from being driven by the limitations of the ego and are able to soar limitlessly through the higher wisdom that lies within all of us.  We are free. We are able to create our existence without constraints or restrictions. We are at the helm of directing our lives to anywhere we desire.

Humility is a balance between being worthy and yet seeing the worth in everyone and everything in life.

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Sterling’s Interview – Featured in The Grateful Gardenia.

  • Sterling Mire
  • August 15, 2016
  • happiness, Janetgunn, lawofattraction, lifecoach, lifecoaching, theaomsystem, waynedyer

I am so honored and thrilled to be featured in Janet Gunn’s incredibly popular blog – The Grateful Gardenia. Janet Gunn has led an exciting and dynamic life as a Dallas Cowboys cheerleader, traveled the world as a flight attendant and has starred in her own national television series, Silk Stalkings, among other notable feature films and TV shows! She’s onboard my “Art of Manifestation” transformational journey and you are invited to join her! www.gratefulgardenia.com

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I can honestly say I felt a big shift after the first twenty-four hours!!”….Having wonderful teachers and coaches in life is a blessing. If you read about some of the most successful and happy people you will find they all have teachers or coaches… or both.
— Janet Gunn

Sterling – Creator of the life transforming system, The Art of Manifestation: Mastering the Manifestation process in 30 days.

Janet Gunn with her “manual for life” – The Art of Manifestation. A revolutionary, air-tight, step by step system for clearly mastering the manifestation process.

Janet Gunn and Sterling – The Art of Manifestation system: Living a Life of Magick and Miracles

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